Thank you for such a sincere response, Kitty. I relate so much to that regret of feeling like I didn't do enough. It's unfortunate your dad only shifted blame when you tried to have a conversation. I'm sorry. :(

I was just telling another Medium writer yesterday how the last time I picked up the phone when my dad called, he told me he was in the hopsital even though he was completely healthy. He was trying to make the point that something could have been seriously wrong and I would've never known because I don't check in often enough. It's always been about what I'm not doing enough of with my dad...never what he could improve at. Our dad's sound very similar in that way.

You have been beyond sensitive and honestly, out of all the places I've talked about this, I have received the most support and understanding from my Medium community. So, thank you for contributing in a big way to that support.<3 I'm finally feeling like closing the door on my dad completely might be possible.