Thanks for sharing this insight, and for listing what Gottman doesn't cover. Do you have any resources you would suggest to a couple where one partner feels they are doing a lot of bidding and not getting much in return? The issue my partner and I are currently facing is that he is overworked and doesn't have time for both himself or me. I often feel like I'm the only one to initiate dates, sex, or any type of quality time and it's starting to weigh heavy on me.